This probably isn't what you want to hear, but break things off with the dancer for a few months before you make a decision about your marriage. I know you said you aren't leaving your wife for the dancer, but pussy can be blinding even if you know it's not there long term.
After that, you'll at least be making a more clear-headed decision, whichever way you decide.
@farmerart: I'm in Connecticut, but my family is from Calgary and I'm a big Flames fan. Loob was my favorite player as a kid, but I though the alternate spelling of his name would work better on here.
Dancers want you to think that you're "special," so they'll tell you that they hate their other customers and that they wish they could spend all their time with you. So, yes, it's a fairly safe bet that they're telling everyone else that you're a loser and that they wish they didn't have to spend time with you. Whether or not that's true is a different question.
I've done it, and checking the helmet or carrying it with me works fine. The helmet usually even gets you some extra attention from the ladies, if that's what you're looking for. Having said that, I usually take the car because I like to be fully geared up on the bike, and it's just too much hassle to change out of my armored pants at the club. Plus I like to have a beer or two while in at the club, but I won't touch alcohol when I'm on the bike.
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