discussion comment
14 years ago
I disagree actually.
I used to not ask, but have found over the years that it is sometimes very worthwhile asking. Some girls lack the social awareness to figure things out. For them, the direct approach is best. And, some of those girls are not just hot, the interaction and dance later is ...wow.
And sometimes, it is simply that the dancer is in very high demand with a long todo list. She is both hot and awesome and the other customers know it.
However, I don't pressure. I simply tip when they are on a main stage dance. When they come near, I simply say "I'm interested in a private dance with you later" and show interest. After they get off stage, however, I simply watch the next dancer on stage from a few rows back. Or I watch TV. But no staring at the desired dancer or other social pressure. About 80% of the time, the dancer finds me and interrupts my viewing. The rest of the time, "they don't get around to it." No pressure.