Thanks for the male perspective on the topic , i feel alot better about the situation in general.
I just today asked one of the guys ( yes shadowcat, there are more than one , about 4 to be exact ) why he diddnt bring this "hobby" of his to my attention before i became a dancer, he replied, and these are exact words, "well, i honestly diddnt think you would like the idea, you alwayse seemed like such a nice girl, i thought you would think of me differently after" - It turns out both him and i were worried about the others reaction,and evidently for no reason . *phew*
Coming a girl, the inside scoop.
Not all women have self esteem issues . I am a girl, and i have alot of female friends , and most, if not all of us, are content with the way we look, and are aware that our worth has nothing to do with our physical apearance. THat bieng said, it is an entirely different ball game when you are working as a dancer in a club, because you make money off of how attractive you are. THat doesnt mean that dancers dont think highly of themselves as an individual, it just may mean that shes worried about how much money she will be taking to the bank. It may suprise some of you that alot of women seperate thier work, from how they feel about themselves in the real world. Its a completely different thing when your not working, and people in your life appreciate you because of who you are as a whole peron, looks dont matter that much in the big picture.
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