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Bones7599 : thank you for your honesty - I will keep you all posted and welcome any additional thoughts.

No to both 8mileman - thanks though. trojangreg - you make sense - although his clients are in-town and he now says he won't go anymore (said his boss always asked him to go) - it's just all so convienent, his answers - you know?

thank you MIDancer - I knew my intuition was correct. Do some men just pay for their clients and not partake? fyi: these were typically lunches - during work hours (I happened to come across his expense report - over a grand in cash advances each tvisit!) DougS... DO you think there is anything lacking in your marriage? Well - NOW I wonder! Is he "on the road" a lot? About 15% Does he go to the strip clubs frequently? Won't fully disclose - last conversation he upped the times to every 3 months (it keeps changing) Does he go to the strip clubs by himself? Don't think so. Have you noticed large sums of money that are unaccounted for? No, but he has a large expense account for entertainment and we keep our monies separate. Have you found one or more of the proverbial "signs" (makeup/lipstick stains on clothes, unexplained long hairs, perfume scent on clothes, "other stains" in underwear, hickies)? No, although I so trusted him I may not have noticed (plus I'm always he culprit of long hairs!) PLEASE - send your long-winded email - I need a guy's perspective!!!