DOMINIC77: 10 Questions Resurrected

Don't be shy, Dominic!

that's what I get for typing this late at night...I butchered #8 as well as misspelling MUSICIANS - damn you Siri!

1. Does YOUR wife EVER go to strip clubs with you?

Shailynn, thanks for this. Wasn't ever expecting this since you and I PMed a lot when I first joined, so I figured you had the answers you needed. Very good questions, I'll type up something when I'm home. Thanks for the shout-out, Dougster.

WTF? Another person who didn't bother to answer their questions. First Nina, and now this.

Well, I had been thinking about Marco Rubio, and how do I not put him last in the list. Haha! Shai through me a curve with that. Answers will be up shortly and I mean it this time.

1. DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF A MILLENNIAL OR A GEN XER AND WHY?

I consider myself a Gen Xer. I have more of the shared cultural experiences: divorced families, latch key kid, parents downsized, cynicism. I remember the Soviet Union and the Cold War. The parental message was the world is brutally hard and doesn't reward any results less than the best.

1. I'VE BEEN TO JUST ABOUT EVERY CLUB YOU GO TO IN YOUR CITY OF RESIDENCE, AND I KNOW THEY ARE NOT EXTRAS FRIENDLY. YOU ALWAYS TALK ABOUT GOING TO CLUBS AND MAYBE JUST GETTING SOME LAPDANCES AND ENJOYING THE SCENERY. HOW DO YOU REFRAIN FROM TAKING ADVANTAGE OF EXTRAS AND OTC OFFERS?

Lots of self control! I saw a lot of cheating and adultery while growing up. I saw how that hurt women's feelings. So I thought I wouldn't be that way. I wouldn't hide it. That explains why I refrained before I got married.

But that's a simplistic view of the world. So maybe I'm like George W. Bush in that regard. I'm evolving on the issue.

Why am I still this way? I dunno, fucking a dancer just seems like my wife with just a different color wig. So for the price, I don't see the value. And that gets us to money. I don't really have money for a hotel room, VIP, let alone money to tip the dancer for CFS. Usually when I club, it isn't so much clubbing budget as it is "total assets." I'll let that sink in.

Often when a dancer pitches OTC to me -- and yes, I'm not lying, they do bring it up -- I just don't have the funds. So it's good that I have a sense of humor about it. Otherwise it would be crushing and depressing, to realize that I could have this hot woman, naked, and inside her, tonight or this week, but I can't and it's only because I don't have funds.

I brought it up with my wife in a playful way once when on Tuscl together reading @JohnSmith69 DS story. We negotiated that when I make it to $150K club, I can and should have all I want. Then it's white lies and she doesn't want to know. We shook hands on the deal.

Let's stop kidding ourselves and embrace how the world works -- when it comes to high-performing husbands and good providers. $150K and up husbands and good husbands at that aren't exactly falling out of trees, 'ya know? Hell, I'd OTC or ITC today if I thought it would light a fire under my ass.

1. NAME A HOBBY(IES) THAT YOU ARE INTO?

I play a driving simulator video games. I turn off all of the driving assists (no ABS, TC, SC, no automatic transmission) and I do hot-lapping, where I spend hours trying to shave off fractions of a second. Though admittedly this isn't real. I should do less of it.

I donate time with food trucks and food charities getting food to the needy and working shoulder-to-should with people in their homes doing remedial mentoring: meal planning, kitchen organization, knife sharpening, trying to get them out of the entitlement mentality or "how do millionaires expect us to live with just this / why can't we have more / how to they expect us to eat this / I bet they wouldn't live on this" de-programming, re-programming. I see the value of my mentoring on them. Hell, I wish I could shadow a millionaire and get some of the same perspective for life as I try to instill in those less fortunate.

I like dog training: obedience, agility (sit, stay, come, retrieve, walk with heel, sic).

Hiking with the dogs and/or the wife in nature and the public parks. Sometimes we go for drives.

I'm into high-end audio. I'm into vinyl records and vacuum tube amplifiers.

1. FAVORITE TYPE OF FOOD?

I love experiences with food.

Scallops. I got to experience the real deal sea scallops and bay scallops when I went on a business trip to Merrimack, New Hampshire.

1. ANY CHILDREN?

No children.

1. NAME SOMEWHERE IN THE USA YOU'D LIKE TO VISIT BUT HAVEN'T BEEN YET?

I'd like to see the Blue Ridge Mountains and Smoky Mountains area of East Tennessee and Virginia. I'd like to rent a cabin for a week, rent a Cadillac to drive down, take the Mrs. and the dogs and have an actual vacation. The pictures look incredible. Plus we got to see the area from the car when we drove nonstop from the mid-west down to Miami, FL once. I wished we could have stopped.

I would also like to see the Library of Congress. Books are important to Mrs. 77 and me. We would also love to see the national archives. I do not really care to see the rest of Washington D.C., due to the corrupt politicians. But I would take a few peeks. If nothing, so see for my own eyes what it is in Washington that I am fighting against.

1. RANK THESE PRESIDENTS/PRESIDENTIAL CANDIDATES FROM YOUR FAVORITE TO LEAST FAVORITE. GEORGE W BUSH / DONALD TRUMP / BERNIE SANDERS / HILLARY CLINTON / BARACK OBAMA / MARCO RUBIO.

GEORGE W BUSH / BERNIE SANDERS / DONALD TRUMP / MARCO RUBIO / BARACK OBAMA / HILLARY CLINTON.

See also - tuscl.net for expanded answer.

1. DOES YOUR WIFE EVER GO TO STRIP CLUBS WITH YOU?

No. She feels that some things in life should be reserved for the guys and not be feminized.

There was one time a year or so ago she asked to go. We got ready then she changed her mind at the last minute. She thanked me for being willing to take and showing that I wasn't trying to deflect or hide anything. She'd rather me go by myself and spend the money and enjoy it better. So much good comes out of it.

1. NAME A GOAL YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH BY THE TIME YOU'RE 45.

This may sound silly but I would like to have another go around of working harder and actually get paid for it. Right now, instead of compensation, I just get thanked, patted sweetly on my head, and told sorry there's no money right now. But if I could figure out how to work harder and longer and actually get paid more, it's simple, I know, but it would be a game changer. That's what I'm missing. That's my goal.

1. NAME YOUR TOP 3 FAVORITE MUSCIANS (BANDS/SOLO ARTISTS/ETC.).

Opeth, Suffocation, Igor Stravinsky.

Lately I've been into Ghost (a swedish metal band, an acquired taste) and Body Count. I've also been revisting Gorefest.
BODY COUNT: (music video) youtube.com SUFFOCATION: (live) youtube.com (studio) youtube.com GOREFEST: (live) youtube.com (studio) youtube.com

Something for your Mrs, perhaps?: youtube.com

BONUS QUESTION: HOW DID YOUR WIFE FIND OUT YOU LIKE TO GO TO STRIP CLUBS? HOW DID SHE REACT?

I was straight from the beginning. It came up the first day. The couple we double-dated with, included my strip club running buddy. So it came up. IMO, women like men who are a man's man, and actually take pride in having a man who is desired by other women. The old joke is she wants a man who has already fucked his way through the cheerleading squad, half of the sorority house, but that settles down with her. My running buddy had fucked strippers for free, I had turned them down, so that played into that.

I think women who self reflect, will realize they are attracted to that. I've never had a problem ever admitting that I visit strip clubs, prior to settling down. Obviously, now for public opinion, I need to keep it quiet. So I understand the pickle some of you married guys are in.

I will close with this: going back to clubs was my wife's idea. She wanted to reward me for all that I do and all of the work I'd tried and put in, all of the schooling I did, all of the hours of effort and work. Even though I haven't achieved all of the success yet that I am capable of, I believe some day soon it will pay off. But after 20 years of work, quite frankly I've earned this reward because I did all of this and never once asked for anything in return. Consider it a "sincerely thank you, hubby" gesture. :)

Those are some great answers. You put lots of thought into it.

Thanks for taking the time Dom.

1. I love driving simulator games too, I just bought Forza 7 for my Xbox. I don’t play often but I do like to play occasionally.

2. I asked about presidents because I can never tell where you are politically. Not that it matters but sometimes I felt you’re liberal and other time conservative. Now I have a better understanding.

3. I understand your frustration with growing at your workplace. I feel I hit a ceiling a few years ago and it’s an absolute bitch to stay up there.

Excellent reply Dominic. You put some thought into your answers, and you appear to put thought into your life choices too.