Have any of you read the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover? I ask because he references the propensity of nice guys to act out their sexuality in... let's say non-traditional... ways, such as visiting strip clubs and using prostitutes. I'm curious to know if any of you read the book and, if so, what are/were your opinions and conclusions after reading it?
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last commentDidn't read the book. But it makes sense to me. In his book he calls nice guys manipulators and Rick Dugan fits that profile to a tee.
The awesome mansions that nice guys hate getting into relationships or are afraid of commitment because they feel they get lost in those relationships I can concur that's exactly how I feel everytime I get into a serious relationship
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Damn speech to text
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Makes sense - nice guys may often not have the spine to go get what they want - often the only barrier to strip clubs or prostitutes is having the $$$ - this is not to say all guys that visit strip clubs and prostitutes fit this profile but many that do probably fit the profile.
I didn't read the book.
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I think to visit upscale strip clubs frequently and if you're spending a significant amount of money banging strippers you have to be moderately successful - not sure how that fits into the nice guy persona.
It's funny because most strippers gravitate to assholes.
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I believe that women are a byproduct of being successful and happy.
Some of the "nice guys" seek approval and validation through women. So they develop a certain co-dependency that turns women off. So I could see where options might be limited to SCs, prostitutes, or relationships with women with even less self esteem. The guy don't acknowledge that he has any needs; he doesn't do anything for himself.
I don't think the book gets into this (didn't read it BTW) but the guys that get laid don't do that. Instead that guy has a higher calling or some strong sense of purpose (other than getting laid) and that direction is what is attractive to women. That, and, guys who get laid are already getting laid, so the ladies will use social approval in their decision making processes in guys to lay.
When women say, in the next BF I am looking for niceness, what they really mean is kindness.
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^ ETA: I think this is crux of why the SW pinks find the guys on the SW or Tuscl forums so unattractive. The perception is "getting laid" or "paying for time with a woman" is the sole focus of our lives.
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Nice breakdown D77.
One should def be cordial and kind but not a dweeb - and not be fake about it - i.e. one should be cordial and kind by default to everyone not try to "turn it on" in a purely self-serving attempt to try to get a chick to like you - it should be genuine and who you are, not something "you turn on" in certain circumstances when it's convenient - most women will see thru that sooner or later
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