As a lady, I wanted to...

As a lady, I wanted to banish my insecurities to strengthen our nearly 4-year relationship. I was sick of worrying when his friends wanted to go out, and I hated him feeling he couldn't go just because of me. So incredibly glad I went. I took him after work as the day shift was finishing up. I wasn't really impressed with the dancing, and after having a hospital job, a naked body doesn't phase me anymore. I was a little bored at first, but not appalled like I thought I'd be. I wanted to stay to see the night shift. Definite difference! The dancing, especially the pole dancing, was like watching nude gymnastics in 4 inch heels. I was very disappointed when a few dancers wouldn't take the money my bf and I were offering when I decided to get into it and have us relocate to the stage. I felt bad, because I knew that because I have lady parts too, they wouldn't go near my bf, even when it was obvious I was ok (and encouraging) it. Some girls did come up to me to chat (not trying to get money out of it), which I thought was cool; Porsche as such a doll! A few girls offered us a couple's dance for the price of one, but we decided $30 was a little past our budget. As a fitness instructor, I can appreciate the strength these girls gotta have. I wasn't very impressed by the physical appearances, I felt much more secure about my body comparatively. I've got a little more meat on my bones and a few more curves than some of these girls, it kinda worried me seeing some of these girls look like walking skeletons; it didn't look healthy (there's my hospital talk). They're definitely better dancers than me though, and by looking at the guns on some of them, they could probably kick my ass. I guess I was expecting movie-star looks and a much more sexual atmosphere, but again, a naked body is a naked body is a naked body, we've all seen it before. I found myself admiring one's perfect butt, and wanting fitness tips from the girls who climbed the pole to the ceiling. Heck, I think I even learned a few new moves ;) My one regret is that dances were a little pricey, and that my being a lady impacted my bf's time, but I guess I kinda expected that. Ladies, my advice is if you're really worried, just give it a shot. Guys like to "escape reality" and feel like they're getting away with something. They're really not, after seeing what I've seen, they're not really getting anything that impressive, there were times I caught my guy getting sidetracked and watching the baseball game more than the dancers, or talking about food, and he got bored faster than I did. Guys, it's natural for your girl to hate the idea of you looking at other women, we sometimes think it as a threat to us, that we're not enough (think of her going out to look at naked guys, how would you feel?). So take her with you, just to see what it's like, that it's not how the media portrays it. It is what it is, entertainment. I'd go again, but I'd have him bring more guys so it's not like the whole couple think would inhibit my man's time and we'd both have more fun. I feel like a better person for at least trying to understand something about him I couldn't get before. It's not what I thought.