Couples Fun at Strip Clubs

I have been to strip clubs many more times since married than I ever did before being married. Why is that? Because my wife and I like to go to the strip club every now and again as a sex life spicer upper. The experience of going to a strip club, especially for couples, is still a little taboo in nature. It's fun especially for the wife I think to do the unconventional and feel a bit naughty. The whole time we are there, we are together discussing fantasies of what we would like to do together with this dancer or that dancer. But, that is all just our fantasies. In our real interactions with the dancers, we are always calm, courteous, and friendly.

It's interesting, I, like most (all?) men in a club, tend to be interested in a particular dancer based on her looks. My wife on the other hand likes dancers who hold eye contact, who smile, and who appear interested in being "in the moment." So it is often the case that we end up having dances and conversing with a dancer or dancers whom I would not have chosen. And I find that interesting and refreshing.

I choose to have my wife be the one that gets the dances. It is fascinating to watch her interact with the dancers. As I said, she chooses dancers based upon she and the dancer having a connection rather than just physical qualities. And so I have noticed her dances are much more fulfilling for her than mine have ever been. Of course that might not be the same for every couple, but that is our dynamic.

Dancers always enjoy the changeup of dancing for my wife so it's a win win situation.

Don't forget, you are there with your partner. Make sure to keep touching and flirting and kissing on the cheek, let them know you know they are there and really appreciate that they are.

And maybe this won't work for all couples, but, to help make my wife more comfortable, I have always let her know she is in charge. If we go to a club and she doesn't like the feel, she can say, let's go, and there are no questions asked. As I already mentioned, I let her choose the girls she wants to interact with. Sometimes, I point someone out to see what she thinks of them, but she is the one who chooses. Also, she is the one who determines when the night is over. Sometimes the evening really works for her and sometimes it doesn't. And we worked it out overtime that the best way for us to deal with that situation is she is the one who says when the night is over. Maybe that dynamic won't work in your relationship, but it is the way we have come around to dealing with what could otherwise have us pulling in different directions, me wanting to stay, her wanting to leave.

I would recommend talking about this a while before actually going. If there is any hint of jealousy, I would do whatever I could to get past that before finding yourself in the club. If you do end up going and she looks uncomfortable or wants to go, don’t make a big issue over it. Just be sure to tell — and later show — your wife that, at the end of the night, she is always the star of the show.

When we go we always take things slowly because it gives my wife time. We start by watching the dancers, watching the main stage and finding dancers that are interesting. Then, we tend to wait until an interesting dancer gets to a satellite stage near us. Then my wife and I tip the dancer with some bills and my wife uses that time to see if there is a connection. If there is, she lets her know that she would like a dance. That is always a fun conversation to watch. If the connection isn't there, we go back to our seats and continue the evening.

We learned early on that it is better for my wife to politely deny any lap dances that are offered if she doesn't feel that connection. When we first started going together, she felt bad saying "no" and that ended up with the evening not being nearly as good. She has found her finding dancers to dance for her is much better than saying yes to whoever passes by the table.

Lastly, it seems in a particular area, there are clubs that are better for couples than others. Some clubs even have couples nights where couples get in free on particular nights of the week. If you can find that, that's the way to go.

Couples in strip clubs really can be a lot of fun. You might have to "give" a little in the negotiation to get your partner to go, but, it really can be worth it.