friend with dancer

When I entered this hobby about a year ago (after a bad break up with my long term girl friend) I wanted to take a break from relationships and engage in some no strings attached fun, but to be responsible by using protection and getting tested often. Overall, the past year has been allot of fun and I've been able to spend allot of quality time with quality women at various Detroit metro clubs. It was never my plan or goal to date a dancer (not that there is anything wrong with dancers) but sometimes the physical attraction between two people in undeniable and things transpire.About two months ago I met a very cute dancer with an excellent attitude at a Dearborn area club and since then we have been to the VIP on three separate occasions and every time we engaged in very hot FS/GFE action. After a recent VIP session the dancer asked me for my phone # so we could stay in touch (I've only given out my # to one other dancer before) so I did. Even though our latest VIP session was thermal nuclear hot I figured that she would just forget about me until the next time that she seen me at the club. Fast forward to a few days later and she text me asking how I'm doing and we went back and forth a few texts and then she asked me if I want to get together for food and drinks one night later that week, there was no mention of $. After carefully considering her invite I thought why not go out and get to know her alittle better.We ended up meeting at a bar and grille on Saturday night and she talked my ear off. She had some very bizarre/degrading stories from being a dancer such as guys wanting her to kick them in the nuts, guys wanting dancers to drink their urine, guys wanting to strangle her during FS, guys wanting bareback FS for $40, and guys becoming obsessed with her and following her home after work. Hearing all this reminded me of what a sick world that we live in and what these women have to tolerate just to make a living. She also mentioned that she doesn't date much and that she's had bad luck with men and that the father of her child is a dead beat. We did talk alittle about extras in Detroit strip clubs and she said that she tries to be picky and approach guys that she's attracted to but some times she has no choice and it's very difficult to make money (it doesn't help that the clubs nickel and dime the dancers to death) in the club that she's currently working at without performing extras - who am I to judge after all the dancers that I've been with. My overall impression was that she is a single mom that's just getting by as a dancer with no plan in the foreseeable future for not dancing. After we got a few drinks in us we decided that it was time for some privacy so we left the bar and went to a nearby upscale hotel, it was very convenient because she lives with her mother and I live over 30 minutes from where we were. I'm not going to give out the details of our time together because that's not the intent of this post but we did have a very good time. So after we were done I walked her to her car and the way that she kissed me was incredible and after that she had a sad look on her face as if she didn't want to say goodbye. When I got home I texted her to make sure that she made it home safe because she was having some car trouble. She responded back that she made it home safe and that she had a good time and wanted to see me again. I did have a good time with her (not just the hotel room stuff) but after getting to know her better I'm not interested in having a relationship with her, were just totally different people at different phases in our lives, she's in her mid 20's and I'm in my late 30's - I know that I should have thought of this beforehand. However, I do like her as a person and I would like to stay in touch with her and be friends because I believe that I can help her by providing some guidance. Has anyone been in this type of situation with a dancer before? I haven't figured out yet how to tell her that I don't want to date her but I do want us to be friends without hurting her. I could very easily take the sleazy way out and keep seeing her and having sex with no intention of making her my girlfriend but she deserves better than that.