How to Perform a Lap Dance

1. Establish the rules.

A slow seduction is a sure recipe for lap dancing success. The whole point of a lap dance is to drive a person crazy with anticipation and desire. You are in charge. Take your time, take control, and take pleasure in teasing. Let them know that if they break the rules you set, there will be consequences.

2. Choose an outfit.

Choose an outfit that makes you feel erotic and sexy. There's a wide variety to choose from. From erotic dance-wear to robes, swimsuits, club-wear, fetish-wear, over-sized button-up shirts and more. The key is to build up a collection of layers that are easy to remove. Be daring, you're performing a tease, so a bit of flesh is essential.

3. Select 2 or 3 sensual songs.

Select 2 or 3 sensual songs that you both enjoy. Think smooth and seductive. Avoid songs with high pitched vocals. A sensual rhythm or beat will guide you through your dance. It's best if you can relate to the music and feel comfortable moving to its beat.

4. Express yourself.

Seduce your lover with passionate looks. Your expression will reflect those sexy thoughts you have in mind and intensify the sexual tension in the air. Look at your body, touch it, enjoy it and then look at your lover drawing their eyes to yours and to your body. Maintain eye contact at all times. If your back is turned to your partner, glance over your shoulder.